UPDATED: Police: Norwalk Man Stalked Ex-Partner, Harassed Her With 100s of Texts, Dozens of Phone Calls

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A 58-year-old ex-boyfriend is accused of repeatedly showing up on the property of his former partner in Darien, sleeping on her porch and, on one day last week, texting her 400 times and calling her 75 times, police said.

He had been arrested twice before in domestic incidents in Norwalk two years ago, according to news reports. He is head coach of both the Darien High School and New Canaan High School paddle  tennis teams and the St. Luke’s School Tennis Team. He is also a tennis and paddle tennis instructor at Woodway Country Club, Westchester Country Club and Patterson Country Club, according to his LinkedIn account.

Darien police described what happened with this account, including accusations not proven in court:

Allan Boie Bogardus mug shot arrest photo

Darien P.D. arrest photo

Allan B. Bogardus Jr., 58, charged June 6 with second-degree stalking and second-degree harassment

At 12:41 a.m. on Wednesday, June 6, the ex-girlfriend called police from the home of a friend and said her ex-boyfriend, Allan Boie Bogardus Jr., was on her property, possibly walking around her home.

When police went to speak with her, she told them she had been trying to end her relationship with him since Memorial Day, and he had repeatedly come to her home uninvited.

That evening, she had been in New York City with friends, and when she returned home, she saw his vehicle parked in her driveway, she told police. She went to her friend’s home and called the police because she felt unsafe, she said.

She said Bogardus had sent her numerous unwanted texts. She let officers see her phone, which showed that on June 5, he slept on her porch, uninvited, and texted her 20 times; and on June 6, he sent her 400 text messages and called her 75 times. He was verbally abusive in many of the texts.

Bogardus has indicated that he’d taken voyeuristic photos of the two of them and has threatened to reveal the pictures, she told police.

Police found Bogardus’ vehicle in a wooded area near the woman’s home, although he wasn’t in it. As police searched for him, the victim informed them that Bogardus had texted her, telling her that he was walking home.

Officers found him about a quarter mile away from the victim’s home and spoke with him. He told them that he and the woman had been in a dating relationship for the past two years and he was unsure why she would have called police. He said he wasn’t aware of having committed any wrongdoing.

Bogardus answered questions in an evasive manner, saying he called the victim about 30 times to find out where she was. When police asked him to confirm that by showing them his phone, he declined.

He said that he often parks near the victim’s home, sleeps on her porch and throws pebbles at her bedroom window so she would know he’s there.

Police arrested Bogardus, charging him with second-degree stalking and second-degree harassment. He was later released on a $1,500 bond. He appeared in state Superior Court in Stamford on June 7, and his next court date is July 12.

Previous Arrests in Norwalk

Bogardus was charged by Norwalk police with criminal violation of a protective order, second-degree breach of peace, interfering with a 911 call and risk of injury to a minor in late August 2016, according to the Norwalk Hour.

On Aug. 29, he was charged with disorderly conduct when, police said, he was yelling at someone outdoors on Cottontail Road, where he lived at the time. One of the conditions of his release from custody was to have no contact with the other person involved in the incident, according to the report.

The next day, the Hour reported: “Police said that while at the home, Bogardus attempted to take custody of a juvenile, entered into a verbal altercation, and when the complainant attempted to call 911, Bogardus grabbed that person by the shoulder in an attempt to take the phone. A witness corroborated the complainant’s story.”

The Hour reported his age as 10 years earlier than the Allan Bogardus arrested last week in Darien, but online voter records show Allan Bogardus, formerly of Cottontail Road was born the same date as the one arrested last week.


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